How do I distance myself from a person who is an alcoholic?
Addiction does not only affect the addict but also their loved ones. It can be difficult to try your best to help the person and be there for them when they refuse to accept your help. When your loved one abuses alcohol or other drugs, it can negatively impact your mental health. It is important to take care of yourself and do what is best for you and your family. Before distancing yourself you probably want to make sure you have tried everything you could to help.
PLANNING AN INTERVENTION
If you have not already, you can consider planning a formal intervention. It may not be right for everyone but for some people it can make the difference in them accepting help. Before the intervention, you can put together some information about addiction and treatment options to give your loved one. You can invite the significant people in the person’s life along with addiction experts or others who may understand what the addict is going through. Each person at the meeting can be given a role to play in case the addict reacts badly or refuses treatment. You can give the person some consequences if they do not quit drinking. For example, the person can lose visitation rights to see their children, they can have something valuable taken away, or be asked to move out of your house. Giving your loved one consequences is not meant to punish them but help them realize the harm their alcoholism is causing.
During the intervention, people can express how the person’s alcoholism affects them and further show the person that a change needs to happen. If all goes well, they may be ready for the change and accept to quit drinking. If it does not go as planned, it may be time to put your family and yourself first. When you distance yourself from the person, you should carry out the consequences you made. This may help the person reconsider whether alcohol is worth it and if they do they should seek out treatment and show you that they really changed. It is completely up to you if you then want to assist them again but make sure to think of your well-being first.